Sudha Mahalingam remembers something that her mother told her, many years ago, when she was a young girl growing up in Chennai.“Sudha, if you want to bathe in the sea, you can’t wait for the waves to subside. Do it when they hit you because they won’t ever stop. Similarly, if you want to travel the world, travel when you have other claims on your time. Even if you have children or other responsibilities, take the plunge and find the opportunity to travel. Why wait? If you want to do something, do it now.”And then there was a trip to Mahabalipuram with her family, where she saw gypsies in their vehicles emblazoned with the flags of different countries.“All I wanted was to join their group and embark on an adventure of my own. I couldn’t stop thinking about how a whole new world had opened itself to them through travel, and I wanted to experience the same.”Is it any wonder then, that today at 68, Mahalingam has six passports and has traveled to more than 65 countries? While the former journalist did travel across Europe when her bureaucrat husband was posted to different locations, it wasn’t close to the childhood dream she once nursed. These trips were structured and formal. Five-star hotels were booked, everything was pre-planned, a driver was always on standby, and nights were spent in cozy hotel rooms.“I wanted to explore places in their raw and natural beauty.”This opportunity did not come to her until she was in her mid-40s. After quitting journalism, she became an energy sector analyst for the Institute for Defence Studies and Analysis. When she started traveling alone on work, she finally found the freedom to kickstart her backpacking journey across the world.
Armed with her backpack, traveling to remote locations, with no booking, living in youth hostels on a shoestring budget, the fearless explorer also moved on to writing a memoir of the adventures and misadventures these journeys in a book, The Travel Gods Must Be Crazy. Shedding light on how travel has the potential of empowering women, she says, One of her first solo trips was back in 1996, where she traveled to Kailash Mansarovar on a 32-day trek. She recalls how her youngest son, who was a 5-year-old, slept each night with her saree wrapped around his form for a peaceful night’s sleep when she was away.“It taught me a lot about myself, especially my hardiness. It helped me learn that I could do things alone.”Sudha also realized much later in her life that she wasn’t afraid of anything. From traveling with absolute strangers in the dead of night to crossing terrorist crossfires with army personnel in the Kashmir Valley, she has done it all. However, there was one hair-raising driving incident on her trip to the Great Barrier Reef, that she is unlikely to forget.
Swapping stories over drinks or gazing at the night sky together, the vivid and distinct individuals she met during these trips taught her how there are many ways to live your life. Some stay in touch, some move on. But each of them has a different story, each fascinating in their own way. While her children became used to her often being on trips, they have been her strongest support, and she continues to share an excellent relationship with them. Her husband, who initially found it difficult to understand her angst and need to travel, started acknowledging her passion after she gained recognition from colleagues and friends about her travel writing.“He started seeing me in a new light. Though he is not big on travel himself, every time he watches Nat Geo and comes across any interesting locations, he is the first one to tell me to add it to my list.”As she bids adieu, she adds how she makes five-six trips a year. The next locations on her bucket list include Madagascar in September and Patagonia in December. She ends with a message for women travelers, saying, “All limits are self-imposed. If you dream big, you will go places. At most things, you may realize your strengths and sometimes your limitations, if you fail for whatever reason. But keep that fire in your belly burning. Don’t stop and don’t give up.”Sudha made her childhood dream come true and has surely made her maa proud.
(Text Source: The Better India)
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